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’Tis the Season for Stress

Dec. 18, 2012
Let’s not sugarcoat it: In addition to all the bright lights, shiny packages, eggnog and caroling, the holiday season can be a major source of stress. Follow these tips to manage your stress during the holidays.

The holiday season spells stress for three major reasons: relationship conflicts resulting from weeks packed with parties, visits and houseguests; financial concerns linked to overspending on food, entertainment and travel; and physical demands from the strain of shopping, preparing meals, overeating, attending social gatherings and neglecting proper exercise and sleep.

“When stress is at its peak, it's hard to stop and regroup,” said E. Christine Moll, Ph.D., chair and professor of counseling and human services at Canisius College and a mental health counselor. “Take steps to help prevent normal holiday depression from progressing into chronic depression.”

Moll offers the following tips to manage your stress this holiday season:

Acknowledge your feelings. “If a loved one has recently died or you aren't near your loved ones, realize that it's normal to feel sadness or grief. It's OK now and then to take time just to cry or express your feelings. You can't force yourself to be happy just because it's the holiday season,” Moll said.

Seek support. “If you feel isolated or down, seek out family members and friends, or community, religious or social services. They can offer support and companionship,” Moll suggested. “Consider volunteering at a community or religious function. Getting involved and helping others can lift your spirits and broaden your social circle. Also, enlist support for organizing holiday gatherings, as well as meal preparation and cleanup. You don't have to go it alone. Don't be a martyr.”

Be realistic. “As families change and grow, traditions often change as well. Hold on to those you can and want to. But understand in some cases that may no longer be possible. Perhaps your entire extended family can't gather together at your house. Instead, find new ways to celebrate together from afar, such as sharing pictures, emails or videotapes.”

Set differences aside. “Try to accept family members and friends as they are, even if they don't live up to all your expectations,” Moll said. “Set aside grievances until a more appropriate time for discussion. With stress and activity levels high, the holidays might not be conducive to making quality time for relationships. And be understanding if others get upset or distressed when something goes awry. Chances are they're feeling the effects of holiday stress, too.”

Stick to a budget. “Before you go shopping, decide how much money you can afford to spend on gifts and other items. Then be sure to stick to your budget. If you don't, you could feel anxious and tense for months afterward as you struggle to pay the bills,” Moll advised. “Don't try to buy happiness with an avalanche of gifts. Donate to a charity in someone's name, give homemade gifts or start a family gift exchange.”

Practicing Safe Stress

Plan ahead. “Set aside specific days for shopping, baking, visiting friends and other activities. Plan your menus and then make one big food-shopping trip. That will help prevent a last-minute scramble to buy forgotten ingredients — and you'll have time to make another pie, if the first one's a flop. Allow extra time for travel so that delays won't worsen your stress.”

Learn to say no. “Believe it or not, people will understand if you can't do certain projects or activities. If you say yes only to what you really want to do, you'll avoid feeling resentful and overwhelmed. If it's really not possible to say no when your boss asks you to work overtime, try to remove something else from your agenda to make up for the lost time.”

Don't abandon healthy habits. “Don't let the holidays become a dietary free-for-all. Some indulgence is OK, but overindulgence only adds to your stress and guilt. Have a healthy snack before holiday parties so that you don't go overboard on sweets, cheese or drinks. Continue to get plenty of sleep and schedule time for physical activity.”

Take a breather. “Make some time for yourself. Spending just 15 minutes alone, without distractions, may refresh you enough to handle everything you need to do. Steal away to a quiet place, even if it's the bathroom, for a few moments of solitude. Take a walk at night and stargaze. Listen to soothing music. Find something that clears your mind, slows your breathing and restores your calm,” Moll said.

Rethink resolutions. “Resolutions can set you up for failure if they're unrealistic. Don't resolve to change your whole life to make up for past excess. Instead, try to return to basic, healthy lifestyle routines. Set smaller, more specific goals with a reasonable time frame. Choose only those resolutions that help you feel valuable and provide more than only fleeting moments of happiness.”

Forget about perfection. “Holiday TV specials are filled with happy endings. But in real life, people don't usually resolve problems within an hour or two. Something always comes up. You may get stuck late at the office and miss your daughter's school play, your sister may dredge up an old argument, you may forget to put nuts in the cake, and your mother may criticize how you and your partner are raising the kids – all in the same day. Expect and accept imperfections.”

Seek professional help if you need it. “Despite your best efforts, you may find yourself feeling persistently sad or anxious, plagued by physical complaints, unable to sleep, irritable and hopeless and unable to face routine chores,” Moll said. “If these feelings last for several weeks, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional. You may have depression.”

Finally, Moll pointed out that one key to minimizing holiday stress and depression is the knowledge that the holidays can trigger stress and depression.

“Accept that things aren't always going to go as planned,” she said. “Then take active steps to manage stress and depression. You may actually enjoy the holidays this year more than you thought you could.”

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